In fact, while most sex toys are great for solo play, they can also be a fun part of partnered sex if you want them to be. Browsing for toys together “can be a big part of the foreplay as the mind starts to imagine how toys might be used,” says Dr. Kennedy. “It’s also a way to signal more of what you like, which is a thrilling way to grow the relationship.”
What are the different types of vibrators?
As for what type of sex toys to explore, “vibrators are a typical favorite and they come in both external, clitoris-focused design as well as internal, phallic options,” shares Jenn Kennedy, PhD, board-certified sex therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist at Riviera Therapy in Santa Barbara, California. (She is also the founder of The Pleasure Project.) Below, we break down the main categories of vibrators:
Clitoral vibrators: “Toys that focus on the external clitoris that I love are air pulse toys from companies like Womanizer and Satisfyer,” says Dr. Torrisi. These use gentle pressure to surround and stimulate the clit, a sensation similar to oral sex.
G-spot vibrators: These vibrators typically stimulate the internal erogenous zone commonly referred to as the G-spot (though that term isn’t totally accurate). However, whatever you call it, there is a whole class of vibrators designed for G-spot stimulation.
Wand vibrators: These are typically bigger vibrators used to stimulate the clit or other external zones. They’re often described as having rumbly vibrations.
Rabbit vibrators: These are all about dual stimulation. They usually have a longer shaft that goes inside, plus a smaller, flexible shaft – often with two soft nubs, or ears – that stimulate the clit. “Some folks appreciate internal and external stimulation,” Dr. Torrisi tells us. I most appreciate when internal and external stimulation have separate controls.”
Remote-control vibrators: While most vibrators have built-in buttons to adjust settings to your desired effects, some are controlled via remotes or even apps on your phone. These are especially fun for partner play, since they give you the option to let your partner control the speed, pattern, and intensity of your vibrator.
Anal toys: These encompass any vibrating or non-vibrating toy that can be used anally. “If you’re new to anal play, start slow and small,” advises Dr. Torrisi. Any toy that’s designed for anal use should also have a flared base for safety. Lube is also essential for easy gliding since your body doesn’t produce any natural lubrication in this area.
